# Single in Your 50s > Whether you are newly single or have been for years: clear, practical writing about what you want next. Single in Your 50s is for people who are single in their fifties and want plain, honest information without the clichés. Every article is sourced and checked, and we link to official guidance on online safety. Part of the BUMIS network. General information, not professional advice. Publisher: BUMIS (https://getbumis.com). BUMIS: Your Dating Mirror, a private app for seeing your own dating patterns. Every article lists its sources, author, publish date and last-updated date. General information, not therapy or professional advice. ## Articles - [How do you date online safely in your 50s?](https://singleinyour50s.com/single-in-your-50s/dating-online-in-your-50s-safely/): Go slowly, meet in public, keep money out of it, and treat any request for money from someone you have not met as a scam. (Single in your 50s, updated 2026-10-01) ## By the numbers - 20% of adults ages 50 to 64 have ever used a dating site or app. Source: Pew Research Center, The who, where and why of online dating in the U.S. (2023; 6,034 U.S. adults, July 2022): https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2023/02/02/the-who-where-and-why-of-online-dating-in-the-u-s/ - 24% of Gen X singles have used AI in their dating lives. Source: Kinsey Institute and Match, Singles in America, 15th annual Singles in America study (2026; About 5,000 U.S. singles): https://mtch.com/news/match-unveils-15th-annual-singles-in-america-study/ - Half of single U.S. adults are not looking for a relationship or dates right now. Source: Pew Research Center, A profile of single Americans (2020; U.S. adults, 2019 survey): https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/ - 78% of recent dating app users have felt burned out by the apps at least sometimes. Source: Forbes Health and OnePoll, reported by Deseret News, Dating app burnout survey (2024; 1,000 U.S. adults who used a dating app in the past year): https://www.deseret.com/lifestyle/2024/09/04/dating-app-burnout/ ## Further reading (other publishers) Hand-picked outside sources we point readers to. Linked, not copied. - [5 facts about single Americans for Valentine's Day](https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/): Pew Research Center, 2023. Quick, reliable numbers on single adults, including how many in midlife are not looking to date. - [What to Do When Love Breaks Your Heart](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_to_do_when_love_breaks_your_heart): Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley. Research-backed ways to ease heartbreak, from reducing stress to leaning on social connection. - [Four Reasons to Stay Single](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_reasons_to_stay_single): Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley. Makes the evidence-based case that a single life can be full, which helps clarify what you actually want. - [How to Succeed at Dating in Your 50s](https://www.aarp.org/family-relationships/rules-for-dating-in-50s/): AARP. Practical advice on how dating in your 50s differs and how to approach it with realistic expectations. - [What To Know About Romance Scams](https://consumer.ftc.gov/articles/what-know-about-romance-scams): Federal Trade Commission. The warning signs of romance scams and what to do if someone you met online asks for money. - [Your child's adjustment to your new romantic relationship](https://extension.umn.edu/divorce-and-other-family-transitions/your-childs-adjustment-your-new-romantic-relationship): University of Minnesota Extension. How children of any age may react to a parent's new partner, and how to pace the introduction. - [The full list, by topic](https://singleinyour50s.com/reading/) ## Tools - [8-question dating pattern check](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/): runs in the browser, stores nothing, returns one of 9 public pattern cards. - [Full Speed](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/full-speed/): You feel it early and you let yourself run with it. - [Slow Burn](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/slow-burn/): You wait until you are sure, and you are rarely sure early. - [Clear Sky](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/clear-sky/): Not knowing where you stand is the hardest part for you. - [Open Ended](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/open-ended/): You are comfortable letting things stay undefined. - [Home Pull](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/home-pull/): You are drawn to a feeling you already know. - [New Horizon](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/new-horizon/): You go looking for something different each time. - [Long Goodbye](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/long-goodbye/): You stay past the point where it stopped working. - [Clean Break](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/clean-break/): When it is over, you are gone. - [Even Keel](https://singleinyour50s.com/quiz/even-keel/): No single lean stands out in your answers. ## Experts - Bella DePaulo (Credentialed source): Research and writing on single life, including people who choose to stay single and live full lives on their own terms. Social psychologist (PhD, Harvard); academic affiliate, Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences, UC Santa Barbara. Profiles: X @belladepaulo (https://x.com/belladepaulo). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Esther Perel (Trending voice): Desire, infidelity and the tensions inside long term relationships, often through real couples sessions on her podcast. Profiles: Instagram @estherperelofficial (https://www.instagram.com/estherperelofficial/); TikTok @estherperel_official (https://www.tiktok.com/@estherperel_official). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Kate Anthony (Trending voice): Coaching and podcast conversations for women deciding whether to stay in or leave a marriage, and rebuilding life after divorce. Profiles: Instagram @thedivorcesurvivalguide (https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcesurvivalguide/); TikTok @thedivorcesurvivalguide (https://www.tiktok.com/@thedivorcesurvivalguide). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Marisa G. Franco (Credentialed source): Friendship, loneliness and belonging, and how adults make and keep close friends. Licensed counseling psychologist; PhD in Counseling Psychology, University of Maryland, where she teaches. Profiles: Instagram @drmarisagfranco (https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Pepper Schwartz (Credentialed source): Research and writing on love, sex and relationships, including dating and partnership later in life. Sociologist (PhD, Yale); Professor Emerita of Sociology, University of Washington. Profiles: Instagram @dr_pepper_schwartz (https://www.instagram.com/dr_pepper_schwartz/). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Paul C. Brunson (Trending voice): Matchmaker, TV host and author who talks about finding and keeping love, modern dating trends, and relationships at every stage of life. Profiles: Instagram @paulcbrunson (https://www.instagram.com/paulcbrunson/); TikTok @paulcbrunson (https://www.tiktok.com/@paulcbrunson). 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